Scott Brenner
I'm a former software engineer with decades of experience making software safe and easy. Now I share clear, practical advice to help you protect your accounts, devices, and money.
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⏱️ Too busy to read now? Key things to know:
► Romance scammers build trust slowly through daily conversations before asking for money
► Red flags include avoiding video calls, requesting secrecy, and asking for gift cards or wire transfers
► If something feels off, pause and talk to someone you trust before sending money
A few months ago, a reader told me about his mother. She was widowed, lonely, and had started chatting online with a man who seemed kind, attentive, and patient. He wasn't pushy. He didn't ask for anything at first. He just listened.
They started talking every day.
Then came the story. He was working overseas. His bank account was "temporarily frozen." He just needed a little help until things were sorted out.
She sent $2,000.
Then another $3,000.
By the time my reader realized what was happening to his mother, she had sent more than $18,000 to someone she had never met. There was no man. No job overseas. Just a professional scammer who knew exactly how to build trust.
This is how romance scams work. They don't start with threats or fake alerts. They start with connection.
And that's why they're so dangerous.
It might happen to you. Or to your parent. Or to someone you love who's just glad to have someone to talk to.
Here are the biggest red flags to watch for:
🚩 The scammer insists the relationship be kept secret
🚩 The scammer avoids video calls or in-person meetings
🚩 The scammer moves the conversation off the original app quickly
🚩 The scammer asks for help using gift cards, crypto, or wire transfers
🚩 The scammer shares dramatic stories about emergencies or money trouble
Once money is sent, it's almost always gone.
If any of this sounds familiar, the most important step is simple: pause and talk to someone you trust before sending anything. Scammers rely on urgency and secrecy. Bringing in another voice breaks their spell.
If you're worried about yourself or a loved one, don't ignore that feeling. Catching this early can save not just money, but a lot of heartache.
Not sure where else you (or your parent) might be vulnerable?
That's exactly why I created the 15-Minute Online Safety Checkup.
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